Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back With 5 Steps

Today I’m going to show you 5 steps to getting your ex girlfriend back. Those that read my blog often would of no doubt since yesterdays post. That post was 5 steps to getting your ex boyfriend back.

But don’t worry boys I haven’t forgotten about you. So please read on to see my 5 steps to getting your ex girlfriend back.

Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back With 5 Steps

So gentleman I can imagine right now you’re feeling down in the dumps, and have no clue what to do. Well don’t panic. If you follow these 5 steps you’ll have a great chance at getting your ex girlfriend back.

Of course this isn’t an exact science, following these 5 steps does not guarantee success. But these 5 steps are considered the best steps to take by many experts in the relationship community. And if you follow them to a T then you will stand the best chance at getting your ex girlfriend back.

5 steps to getting your ex girlfriend back

Step 1 – 30 days of no contact – How and Why?

Whether you’re a guy or a girl, Nearly every relationship advice website will talk about a 30 day no contact rule. This step is so important both for ex boyfriends and girlfriends. Why that’s you’d ask? Every breakup is stressful for both the dumped and the dumper. Taking a break allows people to get their heads straight.

You’ve most likely be chasing your ex, texting/calling her constantly bordering on harassment. I’m not judging I’ve been there. And it is completely natural for us to do these things but what you are doing is pushing your ex girlfriend further away.

So take a 30 day breather. And stick to it, you must. This will be easy if your ex girlfriend wants to be left alone. Just leave her alone for 30 days. But if she is still in contact with you or you have children/work together it will be harder.

If she is just contacting you but you have no real commitments to her ie kids then just say “I’d like to talk to you, But I really need some time to think” then ignore her flat out. Do not give in and reply or contact her.

If you have children or work together then you need to make sure you limit contact outside of those things as much as possible. Give her as much space as you can.

Step 2 – Deadly Yet Natural Mistakes To Avoid

The most natural thing you can do after a breakup is chase your ex, tell them you love them 500 times a day. Beg them to give it another chance. The problem with this is, it’s a huge mistake. One I made and regretted for years. And this is just one mistake that you can make, there are many others.

If you think you’ve already made a few mistakes like this, Which is most likely. Then don’t worry. It’s not too late but you need to stop it right now.

Mistakes to avoid when getting your ex girlfriend back

  • Stalking her – Big no guys, she will not like this one bit.
  • Being needy or desperate – Very unattractive to any women.
  • Ringing or texting her constantly – Again this is only going to push her away.
  • Begging her for another chance – Needy men aren’t attractive to any women.
  • Showing up unannounced – Avoid any surprise appearances to see her.
  • Let your emotions and rage get the better of you – This will only cause fights and worse case could scare her.
  • Having break up sex or post relationship sex – Hard for any man but you need to stop sleeping with her, Its so important.
  • Giving her ultimatums – One thing about women, they hate ultimatums.
  • Breaking the ever so important 30 days no contact rule

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Step 3 – Confidence and Self Esteem Is Key

You wouldn’t believe me if I told you. But getting your ex girlfriend back is more about you than it is about her. Right now you’re likely depressed, feeling sorry for yourself. Let me be the first to tell you, Snap OUT OF IT. Again I’ve been in your shoes so I’m not judging but I wish someone had said that to me. They didn’t.

This is natural and it’s a mistake both genders make after a breakup with their ex’s. I can assure you tho, It wasn’t your neediness or low self esteem that made your ex fall for you originally. You need to return to your former self to stand any chance, or better improve yourself.

Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back By Being You

You need to get on with you life. Start doing new things, meet new people. Go out a lot. Take up new hobbies or start a gym membership. Exercise is a fantastic way to make yourself feel better. You should even considering going out on a few dates. Jealousy can be a powerful motivator. Especially when it comes to getting your ex girlfriend back.

Whatever you do avoid becoming a hermit. All of these things are easier said than done. But if you focus on getting your ex girlfriend back, then you can find the strength to do it. She is worth it. Doing these things will do wonders for your confidence and it will make you a lot more attractive to not only your ex but other women as well.

The most important factor in step 3 is having fun. You can do that however you like. Just make sure you’re happy and confident with yourself.

Step 4 – Your Re-Attraction Plan

Start By Texting Your Ex Girlfriend Back

When you feel like a million dollars and can’t spend more than 10 minutes without having a massive grin on your face. Its time to put in action a plan of re-attraction. This is when you will break the no contact rule. And I bet your excited but try to remain calm. There is still work to do.

To make contact with your ex girlfriend I would recommend texting her first. If you call her, it could lead to an awkward conversation. Which you want to avoid. You also want to avoid texting the wrong things. Find out how to text your ex back here.

After you’ve been successfully texting your ex, it’s time to call her and arrange a time to meet up. Do not under any circumstances ask her out on a date. The first time you meet her you want it to be casual. Just to catch up over a cup of coffee, or lunch. If she needs some convincing do it without begging. Say “come on. I just want to find out how you’ve been, it will be fun” or “I’d thought it would be nice to catch up”. Whatever you do, Do Not mention your old relationship or anything romantic for now.

On your “Not a Date, Date”

Everything you’ve been doing over the last month needs to come into play now. You must appear confident, full of energy, happy and most importantly funny. Make sure you dress smart and feel great. Since you’ve already been a couple she will feel comfortable around you and safe, this is a great advantage but remember to keep it friendly and not so serious. Make her laugh, be a gentlemen and let her go away to stew on it for a while.

Now you’ll be in her head again. She will be thinking about you whether she likes it or not. Hopefully she will contact you or ask to meet again sometime. If she doesn’t then you’ll have to arrange another date to meet again. This time you can up the anti a little but remember reframe from talking about old memories and keep it light and friendly. As tempting as it may be, do not sleep with her straight away. Play hard to get.

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Step 5 –  Succeed At Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back

After two or three meetings with your ex, you should be well on your way to getting your ex girlfriend back. Hopefully by now she would of hinted that she is interested in a relationship again. If she hasn’t your gonna have to seal the deal. Ask her out again but this time at night for a few drinks.

Remember to groom yourself and wear your best outfit. Be brimming with confidence and bring all your best banter along with you.

If she hasn’t already shown an interest in getting back together than chances are you’ve got a girl that doesn’t like making the first move. So you’ll need to, But remember patience has been key to this whole process. And believe me its worth waiting until the time is absolutely right before you try it on.

At the end of the night walk her home and try to get a goodnight kiss out of her. This will be a sign that she’s open to the idea of being with you again. At this stage I wish you luck, I really hope she accepts.


So there you have it, 5 steps to getting your ex girlfriend back. If you succeed or have succeeded getting your ex girlfriend back, I’d like to hear your story. Please comment down below. And don’t hesitate to ask for advice down there also.

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